Fudge for thought #4: Ideal person

"Before feeling disappointed over an uninterested crush, ask yourself this:

 would you have been the best person for her/him? "

                                   

Why Do We Care ?

"My age old question"

There are many times where I often feel that my actions are somewhat very highly influenced by people around me, friends, family and people close to me in general. Its like they have this sort of hold on me (which I think is pretty much in my head, but I feel nevertheless). For example, if I do something that my friends don't like, I try to change immediately and feel quite sad about myself as if I am a disappointment to my peers and parents and myself in general. And during these quite sporadic phases in my life, I always wondered, Why do we even care about other people in the first place

In my opinion there are two qualities that makes us 'humans' different from 'animals' which are: Imagination/Creativity and the other is the fact that we are the only species that cares or at least thinks about the person other than yourself, which is beyond basic survival instincts, that we share with our distant relatives.

For many of us, things matter, people around us and what they think, matter. There is this constant need to be the best of our potential, and contribute back even if its as small as adjusting a little bit of ourselves to conform to social needs. These things truly accentuate the adaptive ability of humans, we can adapt to anything and everything, it is what made us the most advanced form of life on the planet. But what makes it different and special in this context is that these adaptive changes are made by choice, consciously by us.

It seems that with the evolution of the mind, we have also become more complex as living beings of this earth. Our needs surpass than that of hunger, thirst, clothing and shelter. For we need affiliation, we need someone to fall back on, to trust, to love and to care for. We want someone to be there for us as much as the person wants you to be there for him/her .And you can be damn sure that each and everyone of us will do(and probably does) everything to keep those ties intact. And we feel bad when we are not able to deliver, we feel inadequate, incomplete and a sense of disappointment eclipses us, even when we try to ignore, it just sort of comes back and haunts.

Which again brings me back to the fact that we want to contribute back to society, even if its as small as just listening to a friend talk for half-an-hour, of things that could be out of your comprehension. One becomes the greatest laughing stock of the century and tolerates since one realises that 'you know at least my friends are happy and not cursing me or wishing something bad to happen to me'. Caring is a choice that we make as social beings, to spend our energy thinking about others viewpoint and lifestyle as well, to appreciate those who support you and to support those who are in need of your help. We want to know how other people view us as a person and want to know whether we are contributing or not. If not, then we try to work upon it.

Then comes the question, that amidst all the people and their opinions and the process of trying to be 'better', how do we know that we are not losing ourselves(and what makes us unique) during the process? How much do we allow our surroundings to mould us into something that we are fundamentally, not? That is a question for another day.

Fudge for thought #3: Ideas

"Do ideas come from inspiration? or does it emerge from the questions that we ask ?"